Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Consciousness is the first step towards liberaration...

Libertad.

I've been tutoring J since the end of May.

A bit of background...During my tenure as a student teacher, one of the English classes of which I was a part started at 9 am in the morning. As you may imagine, there was more of a problem with absenteeism in that class than the second and fourth period classes. J was enrolled in that class and would show up sporadically, and would participate to a degree which directly coincided with his presence, which is to say that sometimes he was there, and when he was, sometimes he worked. His absenteeism may be attributed to several factors. Aside from the regular distractions of an urban teenage existence, he was in and out of court, on house arrest as he awaited a trial, had no father figure in the home, etc. Eventually, J was kicked out (suspended indefinitely) of school for quite a few infractions, one of which included "threatening" a teacher, after which he flew into a rage and all but destroyed a classroom.

By the time he was suspended, my tenure as a student teacher had already ended. By the time June reared its hot, humid ass in D.C., I had since signed my contract to teach English and American Literature at the same school. One day, I got a call from the Special Education coordinator. She asked if I was interested in tutoring him at a group home to which he had been sent. I told her I was, and after a meeting or two to establish our goals and legal parameters, off I went.

Up to then, the only exposure I had had to J was during the dozen or so times he showed up to class while I was there. J is a big kid...14 years old at the time, over six feet tall, easily two hundred pounds, with huge hands and a perpetually confident gait.

The week before my first meeting with him, Ms. H, my mentor and cooperating teacher, had informed me that he was "coming back", and when I asked her what to expect, she looked at me with raised eyebrows and said "Oh, you don't know about him yet? Mmm..." and shook her head slightly. Quite frankly, that made me a little uncomfortable.

When he first walked into that English class, Ms. H leaned toward me from behind her desk and whispered "That's J, the kid I told you about."

Let me pause for a moment and inject a little Seinfeldian anecdote. George Costanza, the perpetual loser, whiner,owner and holder of the short end of the stick, once had an epiphany. He decided that he had become that way because every decision he had ever made up to a point had been wrong. The day he decided to go against his instincts, he got a job with the New York Yankees by being disconcertingly candid with Steinbrenner, landed a stunning blonde by telling her he was unemployed and lived with his parents, etc.

That day, my instincts told me to feel J out first, to gauge his mood and act accordingly, to not expect too much based on the negative perception I was fed which, I am ashamed to admit, grew exponentially with time. However, I reminded myself of two things. First, I have never met this kid before and he has probably been judged his entire life based on both his size and his color and second, I was the teacher and authority figure. I was the teacher and authority figure.

I marched up to him, extended my hand and said "Hey, man. I'm Mister A, I'll be here for a couple of months helping out Ms. H. What's your name?" He slouched in his chair, gave me a cold stare and said "J..." with a halfhearted extension of his hand. "Nice to meet you, my brother," I said, shaking his hand with the respect I feel I have the right at this point to assume he had been denied on a regular basis.

Little did I know that this moment would be a very important commencement for both of us.

Before I started tutoring J this summer, I was told that:

J is an unabashed misogynist.
J is overt about his disdain for white people.
J reads at a fifth grade level and has a long path of remediation ahead of him.
J is a sociopath.
J doesn't like to work.
J is a perpetual complainer.

There's more, but I'm sure you get the picture, reader. Whether or not this is true, what I have found is that J has a very tough skin, without which he would probably not make it in his part of the city. It took me from our first encounter...our commencement...to get through it and to the heart of J the person, without which I would not be able to understand J the student. As soon as I adjusted our summer curriculum to create a counterbalance between J the student and J the person, I found him to be an intelligent (if not academically seasoned), insightful, quirky, hard working kid who, while guilty of making some really bad decisions, is very often misunderstood. After repeatedly telling me "They ain't never teach me that" after explaining some grammar mistakes he made in some paragraphs, I got him a grammar book. Its boring, its tedious, and the language is intimidating, but he busts his ass because he recognizes its relevance. When we study it, I am infinitely blessed with those "I get it!" moments for which no one recognizes the value but those who solicit them.

I got him studying Mumia Abu Jamal...his essays, his biography, his case, and he asks, almost begs, for more assignments. He has (at least with me) shaken his fear of saying "I don't understand" which, to me, are almost as precious because it means he has acquired the will to understand. When he reads, he underlines words he doesn't recognize and asks me what they mean.

I've grown to love this kid. In the free moments that segment our time together, he tells me about his family, describes the girls he is interested in, and provides me with explanations about the times his behavior was unacceptable. We talk about life's choices and, when necessary, draw connections between what we are studying and why it is useful.

J is, at times, a sociopath...he is crazy...he doesn't like to work, and is, in fact, a perpetual complainer.

Doesn't that just make him a teenager?

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